The First Date . . .

As promised, The First Date. The first date is where we make the first impression. We make sure that we are well-groomed. We have on our best outfit. We spray ourselves down with our best cologne or perfume. But we tend to make that big mistake: spend too much money or give up sex.

The first date should not entail sex or spending excessive money. Some of you have now lost interest. For those of you that are still reading, ask yourselves, "What is the first date?"

The first date is an interview. Nothing more, nothing less. Again, if you're a man or a woman of quality and substance, you will respect this perspective. The first date should NEVER be a dinner and a movie.  The first date is supposed to be two potential partners learning about each other. This requires complete, intense, undivided attention-just as when you're on an interview.

Great places to hold such interviews are bookstores or coffee shops. I prefer two-in-one: Barnes and Nobles with a Starbucks, or a Borders with a coffee shop. Why is this essential? Primarily, a bookstore will indicate if the applicant is into reading and what kind of literature interests that person. After the two of you have some chatter while browsing through some aisles, it's time to grab a cup of tea or coffee with a danish and really get to know each other.

Why is this perfect? It's quiet. It's serene. It creates an atmosphere to get close, but not too close. It forces eye contact. You get to read body language. Ultimately, the two of you get to have an one-on-one dialogue. Allow the conversation to signify what that person has to offer you, or what you have to offer that person. Just as you would sell yourself on an interview, sell yourself on the first date (no pun intended, lol). 

Most women want a guy that is romantic, sentimental, sensitive, financially stable, family oriented, and physically endowed. Highlight your qualities just as you would on an interview. Most men prefer a woman that is employed, drama-free with no children, and financially responsible. Personally, I prefer a woman that stimulates me mentally, is emotionally stable, financially responsible, and has a high sex-drive.

Nevertheless, the first date should be a means of you finding out whether or not that person has what you are looking for in a spouse. Ask the necessary questions. Take the time to get to know that person. If that person succeeds on this interview, that person must take the "three-part" interview.

This interview is where the ideal applicant meets your family. Your family must interview this applicant because your family is the company or organization that this applicant wants to be apart of, right? If you apply for a job, after you succeed on the first interview, don't you take a three-part interview? Aren't you asked a series of questions by different sorts of managers? So be ready to meet the parents and annoying siblings.

Fellas, once she passes both interviews, then you can take her out for a dinner and a movie. Ladies, once he passes both interviews and proves himself worthy, then you can give him a feel of your ruby. It doesn't get any better than this.